Life’s Darkest Moments Call Us To Be Strong

2:46 pm in Pyschology That Helps by seph

You have got to love the game.

Without that love, you will be pounding the pavement unhappy step after sad step wishing you were doing something else. What’s the point in that? That should be the 1st indicator that you should be doing something different – if you feel disgust in going in to do the work.

Step into this moment.

You know, the instant where you grin while in the struggle, enjoy the agony, scoff at how hard it is and challenge yourself to keep going. Some can be methodical about their goals and dreams but for me, I am acting like life is one big stage and there is a grand orchestra behind me playing all different types of tunes.

I am, for the first time, dancing through life now. Some periods of time are slower, some much faster…but I’m dancing nevertheless.

You will always remember the people that were there to congratulate you when you achieved your dream. Unfortunately, that isn't always who you believed it was meant to be. But that is ok. They'll turn out differently in some ways – often for the better and sometimes for the worse. But that’s life. That’s just how the cookie crumbles.

Every day I'm going a tiny bit more deeply into trying hard to be the individual I want to be and bring out the good characteristics in myself that were hidden for such a long time. I am learning. There are infrequently days when I don’t travel deep into the rabbit hole and search for things hidden deep within. I am not sure if I may have it truly any other way. In fact , that journey has been going on for virtually 5 years now and it’s impossible to imagine that I’ll ever go back to the beginning… to that man before the one I’ve turned I’m today. One thing I know for sure is that I haven’t spent any time finding myself, but instead have spent almost all of my time making myself. I believe there’s a massive difference there.

It’s making versus finding… because in all truth, I really didn’t have anything to actually “find. ” I had to drop everything I had learned to become and everything I presumed I should be so as to become the type of man I had always dreamed of – not the individual society or others told me I should be…but who I knew I could become deep down inside.

I mess up. Occasionally I come off too vulnerable or start pouring things out too early. But I do not run frightened anymore. I used to – I used to be scared of everything. Scared of making mistakes…scared of myself…scared of losing…scared of abandonment…and I finally discovered certain methods to drop those one at a time because they turn your life quickly into nothing. They take everything out of you and there you are…just one big ball of being scared.

Our lives are a collection of interpretations of what truly is actually going down in truth. We bring with us stories and past events that shape what something means to us when it happens in the moment and that customarily dictates how we act. If we can change that interpretation, we will be able to change our whole world.

You have to love the game.

This game of life. Without love…then what? What’s the point if you don’t love what you are doing?

A last thing – if you go hard in life and do everything rooted in love and keenness, it's going to be pretty difficult to knock yourself when you cross the finish line, no matter the circumstances. Just keep that in the back of your mind for a while.

Screw up going 100%. Sure there will be incredible wipeouts, but you will recover and be on your merry way again.

Evan Sanders is the author of The Words Of Encouragement, a website dedicated to bringing the best quotes, motivational content on the web, and blogs all to one place. Need some more content to help you move forward with your life after being knocked down? Try out these quotes about strength for some motivation.